The First 4 Months
I hired a Coach and Everything Changed, Part 2
Looking Back
In the fall of 2025, I needed some help...
…I wrote about hiring a coach…
For the first time in my +20 year career, it was not clear how I would make money nor when. Objectively terrifying.
…and became a Coach here at Point B.
The Last 4 Months
The following is a summary of direct quotes, paraphrases, insights, models, ideas, and notes I have made from the sessions I had with my coach:
David Stegman (https://www.thecourageousway.com/)
The seeds planted are the work.
We will never see 99% of the benefit.
I am a tree, I produce the fruit. The fruit does not belong to the tree.
Can I just be a tree (on my path, being myself) producing fruit?
The Value of Accountability - sugar free at Christmas!!
Fathers are in the memory making business.
Seeking an Extraordinary Life
Because I want to.
A posture of “take it or leave it”. Not needing to explain.
I am not for everyone.Post
When you are the happiest…money follows.
Trap of Approval, Security, and Control
I am creating my dream…right now.
I am the man I aspire to be…right now.
If you want a Big Life, you can expect Big “Problems”
Create space, keep expanding the dream there.
One of One
This is life, a series of singular moments.
Two people can look at a cookie, a bottle of wine, a fancy car and see it totally differently.
People have different expectations at Toyota dealerships versus Lamborgini dealerships
“I got hooked” is way more empowering than “I am triggered.”
Post
I am here to be me. The world is waiting for my “me-ness”. Kris as Kris in his “Krissness”
Empowerment Triangle:
Coach, Creator, Challenger
Drama Triangle
Rescuer, Victim, Persecutor
The 3 Rulers, pick the right ruler:
9 to 5 Ruler: hours, days, paycheques
Entrepreneur Ruler: months, quarters, years
Investment Ruler: 1 year, 5 year, 10 year
“The obsession with growth assumes everyone is not enough.” - David Stegman Post
“Enough is your decision”
Money is Baseball.
I throw money to people and I receive money from people. It’s fun to play baseball.
Baseballs can come from anywhere and be any size.
Substack post here.
That way, that way…go that way.
When choosing: Great, Great, or Great.
Know/Believe that every choice is a great choice.
Every hard experience has led me to this moment, this has led me to the best I have ever been.
Remember what you bring to the table: integrity, caring, honesty, diligence, heart openness, intensity, “Krisness”
When the Teacher is ready, the Student appears
The various Arcs of life. Different Arcs are starting and ending all the time.
Arc of having kids living under my roof is getting closer to completing.
Arc of marriage continues.
Yes’s live in the land of No’s
168 Coins: this is how many hours we have in a week. Where are we spending our coins.
Our coins get more valuable over time.
I can buy other people’s coins and vice versa.
It’s hard to become what you have never seen. Examples are crucial.
A big theme recently.
Its not the load that breaks you down, it’s how you carry it. Post
People buy from people they know, like, and trust.
People would benefit from talking to a lampost.
Imagine if it being curious, inquisitive, and compassionate?
People will only go as deep as you go.
The Mirror: Clients will start showing up with exactly what you are working on.
What do I have to give up to go up? Post
There is a client out there right now that is going to pay me more money then I ever imagined.
Progress over Perfection.
2 Millimeters…can change everything.
The Good Farmer
Seasons of life.
Preparing the land.
Planting seeds.
Tending the seeds.
Harvesting the crops.
The Boardroom
The 2 Lists : the Shit List and the Good List
The Keyboard: we tend to push the same 3 buttons over and over. Can we expand our range and push different buttons?
…there’s more and will leave it here for now.
The Impact
My life is heading in a direction that I was not contemplating in September.
I find myself expanding in ways I thought possible yet could not get access to. Getting to the heart of the issues and the heart of myself. Remembering who I am. How I want to live.
Remembering that I came here to be me. Me in my “Me-ness”. Kris as Kris.
I am so grateful for David’s support, his insights, and the value of these weekly calls. I struggle to find the words to express the impact on my life of this good man, amazing, coach, and dear friend. Thank you David…
…until our next call.