I Hired a Coach and Everything Changed
What got me "here" is not going to get me "there"...Help!
No Plan B
It was clear to me earlier this year that I needed to make a change in what I was doing professionally. I have been so fortunate to work with excellent people on interesting projects AND it was no longer what I wanted or needed to be doing.
I have taken leaps in life. Biggest examples: moving overseas or to the side of a mountain in the middle of the Kootenays. My amazing wife has always played ball with me, so grateful for her.
This one felt a bit different. This leap wasn’t us moving physically, it was a move in what I was doing.
For the first time in my +20 year career, it was not clear how I would make money nor when. Objectively terrifying.
What Now?
There was no roadmap.
I decided to spend the month of April 2025 shifting my state through “Abundant Amazing April” (something I baked up). Focused on grounding, breathing, moving, and learning how to slip into a feeling of Abundance…
…it was quite an experience.
At the end of April, I felt great AND had no idea what to do next.
The Big Idea
I held on to many of those daily processes through May and June. No Plan B came in however I seemed to attract amazing people and interesting conversations into my life.
In July, while attending Stampede for the first time in 9 years…
…like a lightning strike I had a big idea.
Over the course of four days there, the idea took shape, a team appeared, and I left Calgary fired up about the potential, had the people, and was overwhelmed by the “how’s” to get there.
Heart vs Head
As the idea took shape, through many meetings, and agreements were framed up, I wrestled with the implications of being a co-founder to a startup. My head was stuck on the fact that there is no money being made until it makes money. Sweat equity!
Brain breaking. Queue all the worry, stress, the “what the fuck am I doing?”, the “this is nuts”, “how will I pay the bills?”, and so much more.
This often showed up in the middle of the night and had me pacing the house at 1 am.
At the same time, when I grounded myself each morning, I could feel the truth in my heart.
Reminded of the amazing people involved, it’s a solid opportunity, the intensity of the feelings I had about it, and this very rooted deep knowing that it was time to make a big change.
My instincts were online, and undeniable. My heart was dragging my head forward.
I knew that I was going to move forward. And it was clear that what I knew and how I would normally approach this, would not be sufficient.
I needed help.
Help!
Just before signing a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) to move forward with this startup, essentially at the “no going back”…the true burning the boats moment, I realized I needed a new kind of help. This happened during one of my 1 am walks around the house while wrestling with my ego’s desire to keep me safe…
The most “successful” people have coaches, hell people I know who are coaches have coaches. Why don’t I have a coach?!
…it’s because I have historically thought I had all the answers.
It was clear this “lone wolf” approach will not get me where I wanted to go.
The Coach
Related to that, in my life, I have been actively looking to make new friendships with people I want to be like and spend time with. To level up. Bring examples of good, embodied, emotionally available, strong, steady men into my life. Because that is what I aspire to be.
This guy is a good man, dear friend and amazing Coach.
David, is a gem: https://www.thecourageousway.com/
Can’t recommend him highly enough. Thank you Brother.
The Impact: I am a Coach…
I will write more about this in another post however my life has accelerated dramatically in the last 6 weeks with David’s support and me leaning in.
Energy and Productivity and Satisfaction all wayyy up.
Now, suddenly, on top of co-founding an oil settlement focused startup (think disrupting antiquated and manual workflows with Automation and AI), I am starting a personal coaching practice…
I will be writing about the journey here.
